I love my relatives and family friends, but in recent years I've grown to dread seeing them at holidays. Why? Because literally without fail, every conversation goes something like this:

Can I be real with you for a minute? I HATE when people ask me about school just to make conversation. I'm on a break. I'm still on edge from writing finals two weeks ago. I don't even want to acknowledge that post-secondary institutions exist. Also, I know fully well that the only reason you're asking is because you feel obligated to speak to everyone in the room at least once. Don't get me wrong, I'm flattered that you want to talk to me! However, it's one thing if you're genuinely curious about my academic career, and another when every. single. person. is asking me about school. Want to know a secret? Most people my age actually have a life outside of textbooks. Dude, I know you have no idea how to talk to me anymore. It's okay! I know that you've graduated to a world of babies and mortgages, and might be a little rusty on your Youngadult-ese. No worries! I've got your back!

As an early Christmas present to all my older cousins, extended family, well-meaning adults, etc. I have put together a handy guide to talking with your favourite 20-something.